Point of View

I apologize; this is a little bit English teacher-y.

Journaling is important to me. Whether writing a little or a lot, I want words to convey stories, along with pictures and product. Sometimes I think about which point of view I should write in.

A refresher:

• First person = I. (first person plural is "we.")
• Second person = you.
• Third person = he, she, it, they. No personal references.

What point of view do I use? It depends on the page.

• I use first person in pages about me. Or the family (we). So pages where I or my opinion is central, first person. Similarly, when I do event pages (what my family did), I say "we."
• I use second person when I want to address my subject (usually my boys). These pages are more personal, and I feel like talking to my sons on the page.
• I use third person for pages where it is not so personal, merely a record of what happened. I don't need to reference myself; I just write about what happened.

Here's a recent example:

This page I used third person for. Nothing personal, little emotion beyond happiness or pride, so I wrote in third person. (OK, there's a wee bit of "I." Hope that doesn't make me too self-centered!)

This page, however, is personal. My son failed at swimming for the first time, so I wanted to diminish the distance that comes with third person and speak/write directly to him, using second person. As a result, the page is more personal.

I'm standing down off my teacher soapbox now, but I hope that you feel comfortable now writing from various points of view!

Journaling: All about asking stupid questions

For all that I've blogged, I have rarely written about writing--funny, because I am an English teacher, and I love to teach writing. Still, I don't want to come off as preaching, and people have an abnormal fear of English teachers--seriously, how many people apologize to any dentist they meet in a casual setting that they don't floss everyday? Yet people apologize to me about their grammar the second they know I teach English. Bah!

As an English teacher who scraps, it makes me flinch when I hear people say they hate to journal, they don't journal at all, they never do much writing on the page at all. This wounds me--what are stories without words? True, we can communicate something with just images and products, but not always. So today's post is to help those people feel more comfortable in writing their stories down.

First, we write to create meaning out of our lives. That means we have to think about it a little first and give ourselves permission to ask stupid questions to figure out the meaning of the stories we're trying to convey.

What do I mean by asking stupid questions? Here's an example with a photo I want to scrap:


I love the photo, so I want to scrap it. I don't, however, want to scrap a photo-only page. The first step in figuring out the story is to ask myself a question:

Why do I want to scrap this picture?

Here's where I give myself permission to give stupid answers. The answer, of course, is I love this picture! That is not a story, though. So I need to ask more probing questions to get past stupid:

Why do I love this picture?

Because it's a good picture. (Still stupid.)

Why is it a good picture?

I love the angle--he's so high up, higher than I ever thought he could or would go. The light is behind him, sort of a brightness to the scene. (This is better--more specific--but I don't want to create a page about photography, so I still need to probe to get at the meaning of the page.)

Why is it important that he's so high, that I didn't know about it, that he's up there by the light?

Now I can feel the meaning kicking in--those details are important because it feels symbolic--for the rest of his life he will move ahead and do things, achieving things, taking risks, trying new things--and I won't know all of them. With luck, some of my parenting lessons will stick, and the closer he gets to as high as he can go metaphorically, the more successful and fulfilled he will be.

So after asking myself questions about why I want to scrap a picture, I know the purpose of the layout, so I will be able to pull products and journal meaningfully--not a lot, mind you. Meaningful journaling doesn't have to be long. It just has to be thoughtful, and I think this will be.